Friday, August 12, 2005

The reason why...

I haven't post anything for the past few days is because I've been busy with work, or am I? It's a pretty hectic week for me, probably due to the weather and gradual increase in my work load, thus my sense of urgency (I hope...).

By the way, today's weather is really crazy. Noon time temperature peaked at 13 degrees and it will drop to 6 by evening. It rained in the afternoon when I was on my way home from school, then to make things worse, I didn't bring my brelly. The droplets of rain that hit my bare face felt like ice, you know... 冰雨。Anyway, my point is, it's freezing... My toes went numb from the cold wind, people who know me well would know I don't leave home without flip flops. So, yes... My toes were bare too. It's so freaking cold lor...

Have I mention my new housemates yet? I probably have, but I'm going to do it again.

My new housemate, the couple. Let's just call the girl, Eggplant and the guy, Milk Shake. Ok, so now its Eggplant and Milk Shake.

On a normal day, a normal conversation will go like this:

Milk Shake: "CCB, open the f*cking door can? You lock the f*cking door for f*ck?"

Eggplant has a weird habit of locking Milk Shake outside for god knows what reason, then Eggplant yells from the room,

Eggplant: "CB lah... I am doing my things can... Cannot wait is it? NB..."

So vulgarity has evolved from being use when agitated or irritated to the important role of facilitating conversation by the verbalisation into punctuation marks. So, is that's how open and close inverted commas sound like?

Vulgarities WAS exclusive for the male population, because without using the necessary vulgarities at different points of their conversation makes it impossible for them to complete their sentence, of course, using vulgarities was being associated with man-li-ness and MACHO (*roll eyes*)

I was appalled at the fact that a girl can use vulgarities with such ease and fluency. It definitely sounds more fluent than speaking her own second language... I can proudly say that I've never used a vulgar word on anyone person, although there were times that I had wanted to do so very much.

What's with using vulgarities anyway, you are scolding someone with the reproductive organs of each gender. Are these reproductive organs suppose to be more inferior that the other parts of our body or what? That we use them to scold people with? The word 'f*ck', doesn't it simply means sexual intercourse? If so, what does it mean when you tell someone to f*ck off? In simple translation, f*ck off = sexual intercourse off... it's like HUH? What the f*ck? (Huh? What the sexual intercourse)? It doesn't make sense to me... Tho' I've been told a million and one times that meanings are not necessary, but don't you find it bizzare?

Ok... 'nuff said about vulgarities...

There are some tensions in the air this semester, long story short, many people are boycotting 1 person.

Basically what happened was that this 1 person has 'betrayed' the trust of a collective group of people. These people were once friends who click well, until they realise that this guy has been keeping a lot of things to himself and not being truthful enough.

I have seen many of such things happened before, the whole group of friends 'ganged' up against one person and totally boycott him/her. Like he's commited some grave mistake that is impossible to forgive. Anything that is subsequently associated with the person is then perceived as wrong and not justifiable.

I really thought this kind of thing should stop after primary school. It's so juvenile-ish lor... Anyway, my point is, does it mean that the person is not allowed to make mistake in life? Any mistake will cause eternal condemnation from peers? Remember my previous post about not able to accept failure? I guess, many people are not able to accept failure because they sub conciously know that, if they fail, just one time, it's hard enough for them to earn recognition once again.

As I hear both sides of the story, I can't help but feel sorry for the person who is being boycotted. One of them from the group was really angry because the person who's suppose to help bring back some stuff from Singapore has failed to do so, due to his very heavy lugguage. The angry person said stuff like, "This show how much effort he's willing to put in for the friendship, I really cannot stand people who have promised me something then don't do it... He can go and stand people up, but not me..."

In my mind, I was thinking:
"The person went back to Singapore for vacation, he didn't go back to run your errands lor, shitass... If he brings it back for you, you should be thankful and appreciate lor, not because he's obligated to bring things back for you lor... Even if he doens't bring things back, he doesn't owe you a living. Afterall, if you really didn't trust him in the first place, then don't ask him to bring back stuffs la... What's the freaking problem? You mean you like that talk behind his back, you are being a good friend to him meh? Got issue with him, bring it out and talk over it like a true friend does la..."

This person who is being boycotted has just gotten himself a girlfriend, so behind his back, those people who thinks his guts should rot in hell, will say very mean things about them. E.g. there was one time, we were meeting for dinner, then the person who is boycotted and girlfriend had something on so they can only come later. The bunch then said stuff like," Must be 'doing things' behind closed doors la... 'Too tired' cannot come... 'Too vigorous' until both of them need to rest before they come".

My conscience was talking to me:
Even if what the bunch was saying is true, the both of them really was having some intimate times together, it's none of their business lor... A bunch of Jealous losers... Get real... What's so wrong with wanting to spend more private with the new girlfriend? I know of people who goes missing when they have girlfriends or boyfriends. Can't they be more considerate?

I guess, it's clear that whatever the person who is being boycotted has done is wrong. Nothing he ever does will appear as right in the eyes of these people. I always believe in giving people chances, it's cruel to give up on people who hasn't done anything gravely wrong. Everyone deserves a take two, a second chance... To err is human, who hasn't make any mistake before? I have made more mistakes than I can remember, dare you say you haven't made any?

Bottom line is, people should point out other people's mistake should there be any and don't talk about it behind people's back. They will never know what's wrong with themselves and continue to irritate you relentlessly. Those who have made mistakes should learn from the mistakes and make sure that they don't go down the wrong path again. If they continue to do what is wrong and think they are right, then they need to go for couselling, that's why the world need social worker like me!

Posted by Piglet at 10:31 PM

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