Wednesday, September 21, 2005

Before and After

I was talking to Lao gong yesterday and some how we ended up talking about guys like to complain about their girlfriends being whiney and spoilt and demanding after they are together for a period of time.

But what they haven’t realised its actually the guys’ fault as well. Just because they guy was so busy winning the girl over that he hadn’t realised that he’s been pampering her like a little princess, lots of sweet lil’ gestures, creating the ‘butterflies in the stomach’ syndrome. Thus the girl has come to think that “Woah… this guy is so nice… I think I might be happy with him.” The girl is also conditioned to being pampered and spoilt and demanding all at the same time…

So guys… Before you complain that your girl is being incorrigible and making unbelievable demands, you know you are partly to blame. Don’t talk about it as if she became this bratty and whiney swine independent of what you have done.

And we also talked about how guys started to slack off at giving the girl as much attention as he have used to before and after she became her girl friend. Mainly because he has already ‘secured’ a place in her heart and know that she won’t ‘run away’ so easily. That’s so not true… Even when the both are together, the girl can always choose to break up with the girl who turned into another person.

The key thing I want to point out is, the person you fell in love at the beginning should be the same person through out the whole relationship. If you are not, you were just not being yourself from the very beginning. If I made it sound hard to ingest, let’s do it with an example…

Let’s say the girl was a supermodel, with fantastic dress sense and great class. Then one day she got to know a guy who looked beyond her exterior beauty and fell in love with her. The guy showered the girl with first class attention and of course, he displayed first class sincerity as well. So as time goes by, the girl realise she actually quite enjoy hanging out with him and tadaaa… They got together. The first few months of the relationship was sweeter than honey and the guy was like a dream come true, so the girl fell even harder for him. The girl realised that she used to dress up and make the effort to look nice is because she felt insecure and dressing up makes her feel confident, but since she’s already found someone who’ve seen her looking her worst and still love her, so there was no need for her to dress up so much, unless on special occasion. Finally, after a few years… She realised she has developed into a full blown 黄脸婆。。。

So you see… if the person like you... Its because of who you portray yourself to be in the first place… not who u become after u are together...

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I did a personality test and I think it’s super uber accurate lor… Come… I show you…






You are influenced a lot by others. You find it very hard to say "No" to people, especially when you are pushed. You are a sweet and caring person. Your friendships are close and you are a loyal pal. Quite often, you are taken advantage of because of your nice nature. Being giving is good, but remember to stand up for yourself.



Not I want to say wat lor… But I really think is super accurate… I hate to admit but, I can be very easily influenced sometimes. I find it so hard to say ‘no’ and reject people. I just can’t bear to see the disappointed look on the person’s face. The part about being taken advantage of, it happens throughout my life... 难道做好人也有错吗？It’s nothing new… So I think it’s super uber accurate!!!

That’s about it… More crapz soon…

I’m going back to Singapore in less than 2 months!! I’ve already booked my air tickets!!! Yeah!! I can go home and celebrate birthday with mummy liaoz…

Soooo Happy!!!

Posted by Piglet at 11:25 AM

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